Changing directions

I'm going to try and change the focus of this thing a bit. Going to try and be bit more specific on poker related problems I'm having and get more out of this.

That being said....

Last night lost a buy-in in a regular .50/1.00 live game I've been playing. This game has changes a bit since I started playing it last year, it's gotten a bit more aggro post flop and people seem to be making more big plays. It's still an ATM when you can make some hands, but it's got me pulling my hair out as of late.

I hand two hands that made up most of my losses last night, one was a loose call (that I make 1000 times, given the opp. The other well.....)

Hand 1 went like this.

I've got Kd Td in the CO. Ultra super LAG donk (ATC, from any position) makes it $4 from UTG+1, MP calls, I call, BB (another LAG) call.

Flop is Ah Kc 3h
BB leads for for $7, UTG+1 calls, I call.

Turn is a Kh
Check around

River 9d
BB leads for $15, UTG+1 raises to $40.
Now, this means NOTHING. I've seen this guy bluff off more rivers than I can count. He also could have a mid-A....even a 3, for that matter. I'm sure he doesn't have a flush, and a bigger K is really all I'm worried about, I call, BB calls....which gets me worried.

I am shocked at showdown.

BB K8
UTG+1 AA....wow, he played this hand really well.

Hand 2
This hand kind of set me off, a little more than it should because of the circumstances, but it had been a frustrating night.

5 limpers to me and I've got KJ in the BB, I check.

Flop is 6 8 J

I lead for $5, MP calls

Turn 7

I lead for $12, MP calls

River 3

I check, MP bets $20, I call

MP shows 67, nice flop call buddy.

Hands like TP OOP are really kicking my butt lately. Mainly because most of the games I'm playing in my leads are getting called and I get zero info as to where I am. I'm getting called by bottom/mid pair, draws, I get no opportunity to shape the hand. I guess I can play hands like this a little weaker, maybe gear down from 2/3 pot bet to 1/2 pot bets, but then I feel like I'm just building a pot for chasers. At the same time, I don't want to get back to the "Bet Pot" trap I fell into many moons ago.

I'm concerned that my aggression is limited to initial aggression and I'm not sticking to my gus by 3-betting more to position raises. I still feel like this game is pretty soft, but I am struggling on how to attack it. I think if I ramp up the aggression with more reraises and jamming I can really take control, but I'm still getting lost more than I should

I'm seriously considering subscribing to PokerXFactor here in the near future for my online stuff. Given my online roll, that's a big investment, but I could use some outside help. +1 is great, but I'd like to watch some full session/tournament videos and get a different perspective on things.